'Untie the Rope'

I got an email from Tyler Perry a couple of days ago that I was pretty excited to read, as I always am. Well, I guess I shouldn't try & make it sound like it was 'only' to me, which is pretty hard when it begins with, "Hey there, Fiona. You good?" Lol. . . . .but I subscribe to his email listing & it goes out to a TON of people. But even if it didn't start out like that, you'd think you had it like that with him cause of the way he's able to speak about such personal matters in his email. When his mom passed away, I got an email & it was so touching. I could totally feel his hurt over her loss.

Anyways, the main principle of this email was about untying the rope. Something I think everyone NEEDS to hear every once in awhile. He talks about just finishing up a shoot for a movie, called Good Deeds, that'll be out next Feb. But how he was taking a break & going to the Grand Canyon for some hiking, climbing, & so on because he still had 20 lbs to lose for his next movie project called Alex Cross. Here's what he says:

At one point in the climbing, I was over a steep drop and was tied to a safety rope, while a buddy’s safety rope was tied to me. It was my responsibility to help him up, since I was bigger and weighed more. I told him, “I’ll hold on to you to help you up but if you start to pull me over with you, I’m going to untie this rope.” We had a good laugh about it, but I was serious…

I started thinking about that moment a few days ago. How many times are we tied to a person, people or things that are pulling us down and we won’t untie the rope? For whatever reason, be it family, friends, society, or just the feeling of being obligated, trapped or that if you don’t, no one else will. I have watched so many people go over a cliff with a person that they are trying to help up, it’s sad. YOU MUST UNTIE THE ROPE!!!

This is your life and you are wasting it being tied to someone who is destroying his or her opportunities and yours. If the person that you are trying to help does not know that they are worth being saved, how do you expect them to put any value on you saving them? You’re not worth it to them. They can’t get it! SO YOU NEED TO! Listen to me, untie the rope and don’t lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who can’t survive on your level. You hear me? Maybe they have gone as high as they can go. Just because you can survive on that level doesn’t mean that everyone else can. Stop trying to help them, UNTIE THE ROPE! I know you may feel this is cruel, but what is more cruel is dying a death that’s not your own. Letting your destiny go to hell because someone else pulled you there. Are you kidding me? That isn’t God!

Here is what I have learned over the almost 20 years that I have been in this business. Let me tell you, I have seen and worked with some of the most talented people you can imagine and I used to wonder why they never got any higher than they are. You know, the kind of people who always seem to be at the door, but never can go in. It used to blow my mind until I got a revelation from God.

For many years I was the same way, I would get close and things would fall apart. I couldn’t get any traction, not in my career, not in my personal life and not in the pursuit of happiness. I just couldn’t move forward. Through much prayer and self-discovery, I found out that I used to be, notice I said “USED TO BE,” a self-saboteur. I would find a way to subconsciously destroy every good thing that was in my life and I didn’t even know I was doing it. Most self-sabotaging people don’t know that they are doing it. I don’t think there is anyone sadder than a person who blames everyone else, but themselves for their situation. The very revelation that I was causing my own problems was one of the greatest blessings God could have allowed me to see. Once I realized the behavior, I was able to change it. That is why my life is in such a great place right now. I realized that my very thoughts were keeping me from being successful at everything. “So, as a man thinketh, so is he.”

Many times a lot of us sabotage subconsciously because of what mamma or daddy said, traumatic childhoods or any number of things that happened growing up that made us feel that we shouldn’t have or that we didn’t deserve it. I’m here to tell you all, that misinformation was wrong. You do deserve it! You are worthy of it! For me, knowing that Jesus died and rose again makes me know we are all worthy.

Why am I saying this? I’m just tired of people being upset with people who have realized their dreams. The only difference in someone who is living their dream and someone who can’t get it to come to pass is they don’t feel they deserve it. They don’t feel they are worthy of it. So many of us have dreams, dreams that the world is waiting for, talents that will help heal and change nations, but we keep destroying our own successes. I know for a fact that if I had not figured this out, you wouldn’t be reading this email right now. Nor would I be a happy soul.

The world is waiting for your gift. Give it to yourself and you will give it to them, but first you have to UNTIE THE ROPE.

-Tyler

How amazing it he?? I am so grateful for this man who is so on top of his gift that Heavenly Father's blessed him with It's inspiring & encouraging on days when things just don't seem to be looking up.

We all have people or things in our lives that are pulling us down from being able to 'REALIZE' our dreams to it's fullest. We need to untie those ropes. We need to let go of those things or we will be pulled farther & farther away from where we should & can be. At this present time in my life, I feel there are a few people that both my husband & I need to 'UNTIE THE ROPE' with in order for us to grow in the pursuit of our dreams/goals. It seems that the adversary is never ending in his ongoing efforts to relinquish us of our strive to be better. In our reassurance that WE are sons & daughters of God & that we have been endowed with the ability to achieve whatever it is we believe we can. That simple, but oh so powerful a principle can 'save a nation.' In the wise words of the one & only Beyonce. :D